What Is, Is -- And What Ain't, Ain't

The truth is the truth.

Trying to manipulate, alter, massage, deny, cajole, frost or skip around the truth doesn't change it. Resisting what's true not only leaves us spinning our wheels, it prolongs pain and oftentimes makes things even more difficult.

Grace enters when we accept what is.

Today I signed marriage dissolution papers. I want to mark this day -- but quietly. There's no need for a big fuss. I don't have the energy for a big fuss. I don't have the energy for even a little fuss.

The truth of my relationship with Bryon isn't altered by paperwork. Getting married didn't create our commitment to one another and getting divorced won't kill it. We continue to honor our vows to love each other.

Our marriage is over, and our friendship is alive and well and transforming and blooming in unforeseen, miraculous ways.

All because we both are choosing truth, love and generosity of spirit.

I'm profoundly tired. Bedtime.

(Photo by David-sm.)

Comments

[Leslie Shanahan]

Carla, I too entered the world of "the divorced" although my husband (I refuse to refer to him as an X) and I remain friends and see each other and continue to help each other. Our kids are happier. We are happier. I went dragging and kicking into the divorce situation, so reluctant to have "failed". Yet the truth is we are all better with this space.
My heart goes out to you. You are in transition, which is draining. Yet, in some ways, aren't we always in transition from one thing to another? Keep your thoughts positive and continue to take care of yourself. You are an awesome, strong, wonderful woman, much loved and admired by all who know you. Peace, Leslie